Let’s Talk Perfectionism (from a Recovering Perfectionist’s Perspective)
Research on Perfectionism
Hey guys, so I was reading an article from The Journal of Psychology by O’Connor and O’Connor. I’ll put the whole link below, but, I was reading about perfectionism in there. O'Connor and O'Connor did some research on perfectionism. And, if you don’t know about perfectionism and you don’t struggle with it, well, you probably don’t have a lot in common with me. I label myself as a recovering perfectionist.
Problems with Perfectionism
And, I think a lot of people struggle with this. I know a lot of my clients do. Perfectionism can, at its worst, contribute to depression and anxiety symptoms. This study found, though, that when you link people that have perfectionist traits and positive coping strategies--that these people tended to have no more depression, anxiety, and clinical issues than the average Joe.
The Key is Self-Compassion
And, this really, really spoke to me. It spoke to the work that I do in session a lot with people. The article talked about that need for compassion. The thing that shames perfectionists the most is either messing up or feeling like they’re going to mess up. Because you feel so much shame, learning how to be kind to yourself in this moment can be a big struggle. However, being kind to yourself in the midst of shame is also linked with being able to handle stress better. It is also linked with being able to handle things that come up, even traumatic events, better.
So, if you’re struggling with perfectionism and need a little help learning some ways to be kind to yourself, I’d love to help. Sometimes you know what to do, but still struggle to actually make it happen. So, if you need support with practicing self-compassion, I'm here for that, too.
Leave some comments below, and we can have a discussion about it. You can also check on my website at http://www.hopeforthejourney.org. Let's get to work on you becoming a recovering perfectionist, just like me.Thanks. Take care.
O’Connor & O’Connor (Journal of Psychology, vol. 50, no. 3)